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Need Help with Conflict Resolution?

4/18/2019

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In working through disagreements and various forms of conflict, we can easily get stuck and may not always know how to move forward or have constructive conversation. This video is a great resource and offers guidance for working through conflict. In addition to the link, I have included a written guide based on the video. I hope you find this helpful in your relationship.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4lRnrzoQ3GU&feature=youtu.be

Conflict Resolution Questions to Guide Conversation
 
1.)How do I feel?
     -Use an “I” statement and just one feeling/emotion word: “I feel _________”
     -Do not insert additional thoughts, interpretations, or other things about your partner.
 
2.) What do I want?
     -What is it we are fighting for?
     -What is my/our larger life dream?
 
3.) How does the past play into the present?
     -How is it affecting me now?
 
4.) What do I get out of staying stuck?
      -What is being reinforced for me?
 
5.) What needs to be said (to your partner)?
      -In a structured way: What hard truth needs to be told?
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6.) What agreements have I broken?
 -Opportunity to take ownership of broken agreements; both known and unknown/hidden.
 
7.) How can I be of service to my partner?

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    Isaac Jacobs, LCSW, is a counselor serving individuals, families, and adolescents. He specializes in improving communication between couples, working through life crises and transitions, and working on overcoming barriers to growth.

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