Need Help with Conflict Resolution?

In working through disagreements and various forms of conflict, we can easily get stuck and may not always know how to move forward or have constructive conversation. This video is a great resource and offers guidance for working through conflict. In addition to the link, I have included a written guide based on the video. I hope you find this helpful in your relationship.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4lRnrzoQ3GU&feature=youtu.be

Conflict Resolution Questions to Guide Conversation
 
1.)How do I feel?
     -Use an “I” statement and just one feeling/emotion word: “I feel _________”
     -Do not insert additional thoughts, interpretations, or other things about your partner.
 
2.) What do I want?
     -What is it we are fighting for?
     -What is my/our larger life dream?
 
3.) How does the past play into the present?
     -How is it affecting me now?
 
4.) What do I get out of staying stuck?
      -What is being reinforced for me?
 
5.) What needs to be said (to your partner)?
      -In a structured way: What hard truth needs to be told?
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6.) What agreements have I broken?
 -Opportunity to take ownership of broken agreements; both known and unknown/hidden.
 
7.) How can I be of service to my partner?